Do you find yourself comparing your life, your face, your figure to other people? Looking at your own flaws and seeing yourself in an unfavourable light?
I do. And although I know some of it is down to my ongoing mental health issues, I think that many of us may be prone to putting ourselves down.
I was reminded of this recently when a lovely lady I was chatting to on Facebook said she was nervous about having her photos online for others to see. Which I understand – I really do. What floored me was when she continued on to say that it was different for me because “you’re beautiful”.
This lovely, cheerful lady was seeing a version of me that I certainly don’t see – and I suspect that in seeing her as an attractive, happy person, I was seeing a version of her that she didn’t see. And it got me to wondering how many of us look at others and see theirs graces, where we see flaws in ourselves.
I follow and read a couple of other retro/pinup blogs, and I am utterly guilty of comparing myself and my little blog to theirs (looking at their professional photos, their expensive outfits, their custom-ordered accessories…) and feeling rubbish in comparison.
And so I’m working at reminding myself that it’s ok to have photos that are a little too dark (I’m new to having a real camera). It’s ok to take photos in my hallway sometimes (I do all my photos myself using a timer, and I am sometimes too ill to go outside). It’s ok to look a little rough around the edges (part of my charm?). It’s ok to blog within my budget (many of us live on a budget that is smaller than we’d like!). I’ll continue to try and do my best with what I have and whom I am.
How do you feel when you look at other people’s blogs or lives? Are you able to see the positives in your own experiences and life?